April 3, 2014
Dear Patti and Staff,
Chris & I have mutually agreed to date each other exclusively. Therefore, I would like to put my membership on hold.
Thank you so much for thinking of Chris as a match for me. We have been spending a great deal of time together; I’ve really enjoyed the time spent getting to know each other and I find new things that I like about him & his character every time that I see him.
Have a wonderful day.
As of now, I’d like to go on hold until further notice so I can continue getting to know Mark. He is a great guy! Thanks for matching us!
March 27, 2014
I’d like to put my matches on hold for now. Lee and I have been getting more serious and I’d like to see where it goes from here. Any questions, please call me. I will keep you posted!
Thanks! -Sandy F.
February 11, 2014
I have been seeing Stephen and things are going great between the two of us. I am requesting that my membership be put on hold so that I can be exclusive with Stephen. I am grateful that you matched us. Thanks for everything.
February 7, 2014
This is Jim P. I have to put my account on hold to take care if some family and personal things. I hope this will not be too long of a period. But I have met someone through you and things are going well and I hope they continue to do so.
Thanks — Jim
Happy New Year!!!
I would like to put my account on hold as of today 1/2/14. I’ve met Jason and we clicked. Lots in common.
Patti, today is one year to the day that I went out on my first date with my sweetheart, Alex. And it is one year to the day we will marry. This is the most amazing man I have ever met – an I have you to thank for introducing us. We would never have met without you matching us. I am not as good with words as he is, but you should know how deeply grateful I am to you for introducing us. He is “perfect” for me in every way…our relationship and our love for each other has grown in these past twelve months in ways it never did in any other relationship. You looked at the two of us and saw a “match” where I may not have … and am so thrilled I trusted you when you made this match. We are looking forward to sharing the rest of our lives together. So for my best friend, confidant, lover and most wonderful soul mate… I thank you! Camille
I would like to put my membership on hold as I continue dating Mike D. We really hit it off and are having such a great time together. I’m very excited about him!!!
-Kat and Ben
July 2, 2013
Dear Patti, I’ve been on 3 dates with John O. I like him very much. Hes very kind and thoughtful. Very romantic. Ive been to his house. He seems to be head over heals about me too. I hope and pray that we can continue a healthy relationship. So this note is to let you know i want us to be exclusive. Thank you very much. Like a dream come true! -Stephanie
Thank you sincerely for all of your efforts!
It has been a pleasure working with you.
Very Truly Yours,
April 9, 2012
Good morning, Patti!
I would like to put my BNI service on hold, effective immediately.
James and I have been dating for 5 weeks… really having fun, enjoying each other’s company. It’s a comfortable relationship and we both agreed we’d like to get to know each other better. It’s been quite a while since I’ve felt this way about someone!
I will keep you posted!
Thanks so much, Mary Anne H.
I would like to place my BNI service on hold starting with the end of December 2011 while Camille and I continue to focus on each other. I think we have something special going and out of respect and fairness to her (and be true to my monogamous nature), I feel it would be best not to see anyone else for the time being. If our situation changes I will certainly let you know.
I just wanted to wish you and everyone over at BNI a very Merry Christmas, Happy New Year, and a joyous holiday season.
Things continue to be going quite well between me and Jean. It takes time to get to know each other and both of us are in no hurry. I can tell you that I really just enjoy spending time with her. In fact on Christmas Eve we will be cooking a prime rib and baking cookies together. She also said something about wine, but I am not sure if it is for a cookie recipe or the cook LOL
Life is good. Thank you for your guidance, support, and friendship.
Dear Buffalo Niagara Introductions:
I’ve found a certain solace in one of the matches you have arranged for me and wish not to be matched with anyone for a time to see where this may lead.
Thank You for all the support you and your staff have given me through my quest in finding happiness.
I wish to put my membership on hold due to a nice relationship with Joe S. who was my first match. Thank you and your staff for your kindness.
To whom this may concern,
I, John D. J., would like to be put on hold as right now, I am very happy with my last three dates and at this present time, I am still seeing all of them. Thanks a lot and keep up the good work. I haven’t been this happy or have had such a good time in I don’t know how long!
Please allow this email to confirm that I wish to put my account with BNI on hold. Matt and I had a discussion last night that “cleared the air” between us and we have agreed that we wish to date each other exclusively. We have a lot in common and are a good match. In fact, I thank you for making this match so quickly; I think it emphasizes that you are very good at what you do.
Very truly yours,
I just want you to know that I have made a real connection with Jean.
After a great deal of soul searching I determined there were a few qualities I needed in a person and Jean matches up with me rather nicely. I would like to continue my relationship with her in a committed exclusive fashion.
I wanted to also thank you for pointing out to me in a gentle manner that I talk too much. What can I say? I worked in retail, I’m a school teacher, and I’m a musician so I talk a little bit. Jean found a way to quiet me down, but that is a story for another time.
Thanks again for everything.
I came across your book by accident while visiting family in North Carolina. I have had no luck finding that special someone since my divorce 7 years ago, and was intrigued by the title, so I bought it and read it on the plane ride home.
Some background. I grew up with a father who was psychologically and sometimes physically abusive. All my childhood, every misstep or achievement in which he felt I fell short was magnified a million times. Every argument with my mother was over my shortcomings. He constantly reminded me of what a failure I would be in life, and so after I graduated from college, I set off to prove him wrong, dedicating myself to being a success in my career. That said, I saw personal relationships as potential barriers to that success and tended to keep women with whom there was serious relationship potential at arm’s length. The relationship that led to my marriage even hit my by surprise. I had no idea I was being targeted by her, went along with it when I surprisingly found myself in bed with her, and probably married a good friend who in reality I did not love.
After my divorce, I tried online dating in many forms. My career forces me to move periodically, and so online dating allows me to meet people even though I don’t have much of a social network. But it hasn’t worked, leaving me both puzzled and frustrated.
When I read the first few chapters of your book, I realized how much I still carried around inside of me from my now long deceased father. I was actually fearful reading your insight into someone like me, realizing I had never completely defeated all those issues. It was very hard to keep reading.
But then I hit a critical part of ‘Getting Over Yourself.’ You asked something akin to, “Would you date yourself?” The answer is a resounding ‘yes!’ Not only am I intelligent, successful (thanks dad), passionate, very physically fit (not to mention tall), handsome I’m told with common sense and a fun sense of humor, but I’m also someone who is now so willing to share my heart and soul with a true partner. In short, I have a lot to offer, and your book made me realize that and help me take an important step in ‘getting over myself.’
And so I signed up for an area matchmaking service here in Iowa (where I’ve lived for about a year).
So thank you for all your advice. It really hit home! And I just wanted you to know what you wrote impacted me in a truly profound way.
Very truly yours,
August 3rd, 2012
I am writing to thank you for introducing me to Bob in May 2005. We date on and off at first before making it exclusive in Fall of 2005. The past six years, we have been through a lot together including grandchildren, loss of loved ones, and extensive traveling! We always tell everyone who introduced us, Patti Novak, and most people know who you are, but we make sure to inform the ones who don’t.
We just got engaged recently and wanted to let you know that our wedding plans will be for sometime in 2012 after Bob’s retirement!
Thanks again, Patti!
- Melody and Bob
I came in over a year ago looking for a chance to actually date and potentially find a good guy to start a serious relationship with. Through all of your efforts I was lucky enough to very quickly find Benjamin. I was his first match, he was my fifth and ever since our first date we could not be happier. Ben is a wonderful good man, and if it was not for you we would have never met. We are so blessed. In Ben I have found someone that I can be my true self around, have constant laugher, and share so many things with.
Ms. Patti Novak
President and Dating Coach Extraordinaire
Buffalo Niagara Introductions
1868 Niagara Falls Blvd, Suite 101
Tonawanda, NY 14150
March 7, 2011
Dear Patti (and staff)
Call me a short-timer! My second referral and voila, you make your magic happen.
Yep, this is my official put me on hold letter after only 2 referrals. Sheri is the one she is intelligent, humorous, gorgeous, tender, intuitive, gentle, thoughtful and did I mention gorgeous? These are her bad traits, I don’t have enough space for the good ones!
I only wish I had made this decision to join a long time ago. It really works!
I will spread the word
Thank you so much
February 26, 2011
I’m writing to let you know that Timothy J. and I have decided to put our accounts on hold as we are going to date exclusively. Please feel free to contact either one of us if you have any questions. Thank you so much for introducing us! We know it’s in our hands now but appreciate your assistance. Who knew it would have happened so fast – I’m impressed Patti!!!
Tim and Ann
Please place my account on hold starting 01/03/2011. I was matched with Bev and I can`t begin to thank you enough. Bev is the woman of my dreams.
I would like to put my membership on hold and date Dan J exclusively. I think he may be the love of my life.
Thank you, Bev G
I spent many years deaf to the music of joy in my life. Not lonely but not loved……. Patti worked to try and open the door to a relationship in my life. When close to the end of a fruitless search, she introduced me to an intriguing man with whom I fell in love. He is challenging and smart and has a great, albeit off-beat, sense of humor that I enjoy! We listen to music together……..
I joined BNI in the first week of January, 2010. It didn’t take long for Patti Novak to find me the perfect partner. As a matter of fact, I met Lynn on February 6th. Patti introduced me to the most beautiful girl I have ever known; a kind, thoughtful, intelligent woman with a great sense of humor, and very pretty on top of all that. (A combination that is both rare and hard to beat). We just became engaged this past Christmas, and are currently making plans to get married.
I am writing to tell you that I read your book and gained some invaluable advice as a result. As someone who studies communication and has had personal trouble with dating I was especially appreciative of certain suggestions. Interestingly, they are aplicable on a much larger scale than just dating. Here are some of them:
1) The worst and harshest rejecters tend to be the biggest complainers about being harshly judged. 2) If you don’t love yourself, no one else will. 3) Look for the life lessons hiding in your experiences. 4) Do something kind for someone everyday. 5) Less is more in terms of less talking and more listening. 6) The need to impress is a red flag for insecurity. 7) By taking the pressure off your desperation to find love, you will change the negative energy you’ve been giving off that has kept people from wanting to connect with you. Online dating dehumanizes dating and personal interaction.9) Without a sense of humor, the difficulties and complexity of life will overwhelm you. 10) Without respect, the fun you have together and the chemistry you feel with each other won’t matter. 11) Getting to know someone is supposed to happen slowly. 12) So much about finding love is balance between what we need to change and what we need to accept.
I look forward to suggesting your book to others who are having trouble in the dating sphere or simply suffer from a lack of confidence in themselves.
Subject: Zo & Tony Hi Patti. Just a quick note of thank you (again!) for introducing Tony to me. We just celebrated our first year of dating. I am confident we would never have met if not for you. I was certainly tired of the dating options I had been trying, and I was definitely a skeptic when it came to matchmakers. You gave me hope, a healthy dose of reality, and helped me find my guy. Best wishes for much continued success, Zo.
A Happy BNI Member